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friend of mine said that in a conversation we were having about society softening in the worst possible way. Children nowadays are having functional coping mechanisms stripped of them before they even have a chance to develop. There was a time when playgrounds were made out of wood and slides made out of metal - you learned not to slide on the slide when it was hot (or you learned to tolerate butt/leg-burn) and you learned what to do if you got a splinter. Nowadays, in our hypersanitized society, playgrounds are made out of plastic - it eliminates the burn and the splinters... it also eliminates children learning how to deal with pain.
Thanks to
this article by Fred Engh, the
city of Beachwood has decided to cancel this year's Little League tournament. The kids who worked hard and practiced often so that they could be selected are now being denied the opportunity to showcase their development and skill.
To an average American who was formerly a child (and still is at heart - yours truly) Engh's arguments and parallels are specious.
There’s nothing like sticking a dagger into a youngster’s self-esteem the first season he plays the sport by letting him know that he’s not good enough or considered worthy to be part of this elite group of teammates. That’s not the message we want to send to children who are already less active and more obese than any previous generation in history.
Really? So it doesn't teach children that experience and time are teachers? If the children are less active, then maybe competition should motivate them to practice more and be more active so that one day, they may join the ranks of the All-Star players. Instead of coddling them and telling them that they're just as good as the people they aren't actually as good as, we should introduce them to reality. There are always going to be disparities in life - economic, social, etc. There are things that they can do to bridge the gap - if they aren't that good this year, then maybe another year or two of practice will make them good enough.
Just think for a moment how preposterous All-Star games are, especially in T-ball or beginning-level programs. In kindergarten classrooms across the country, do we take the kids who are learning letters and numbers quicker than their classmates and announce that these kids are special and give them extra attention and cool extracurricular activities to participate in? Of course not! That would destroy the others’ confidence and make them feel insignificant.
I don't know what kind of school Engh went to, but in my kindergarten class, when my teacher recognized that a classmate of mine and I had a better grasp of English than many of our classmates, she sent us to the first grade class for reading. In the first grade - since I technically had already passed first grade reading - another girl and I went to the second grade class for reading. When you're six - hell, even when you're 21 - playing video games seems a lot more appealing than reading a book. But there are trade-offs. If you play the video games, you don't develop your reading skills. If you don't develop your reading skills, you can't be the best reader in the class. It taught the kids that you can't have your cake and eat it too.
All-Star games make about as much sense as taking a vegetarian to a fancy steakhouse, or hitting an all-you-can-eat buffet with a friend who is struggling to stick to a diet.
It teaches people self control. If someone takes a friend who is struggling to stick to a diet to an all-you-can-eat buffet, the dieter has the choice of what and how much they can eat. If the dieter is serious about the diet, then whether they go out for tapas or to an all-you-can-eat buffet shouldn't matter. If the dieter isn't serious about the diet and therefore won't control him/herself, that's not the friend's fault. Likewise with the vegetarian - just because a person is at a steakhouse doesn't mean that he/she has to eat anything at the stakehouse. Water is always an option. If the primary purpose of the experience is to be social, then let the social aspect take center stage - everything else is just subterfuge. So too, are the all-star games - the team games and competitions are the social experience; the all-star game is just the icing on the cake.
It doesn’t take much to figure out that kids who mature quicker than others are going to be stronger, faster and probably more productive on the field. So, we’re simply recognizing players whose bodies have developed faster in many cases.
Oh really? Engh is essentially saying here that an 11-year-old who has begun maturing and does nothing to practice or train outside of the teams' practices has an inherent advantage over an 11-year-old that has not begun maturing but practices and trains outside of the team practices.
The entire process is twisted. I’d love to know the percentage of kids who are chosen for these All-Star teams who have a parent involved in coaching. Mom or Dad justify choosing their own child--even if he’s clearly not one of the better players--because they’ve surrendered a lot of their free time to volunteer to coach.
Well if that's Engh's big concern, he should have just said so earlier. It is unnecessary to throw the baby out with the bathwater. Professional baseball players have stats - if the little-league coaches kept track of the stats of their players and used the stats to evaluate them for the all-star team, then that would be a far less biased means of choosing players. Attending parents could corroborate the statistics for quality control purposes. Additionally, it can highlight the player's weak points and show what areas the player needs to work on and develop for the next season.
The injury factor. Stress fractures, trips to specialists and surgeries come into play when these seasons are extended with extra games and practices. They take a toll on young bodies and lead to an avalanche of overuse injuries.
Here Engh makes a sweeping generalization and doesn't cite studies or figures. Even so - part of being human is getting hurt and coping with it. Once again, coddling children and having them live in a bubble without pain doesn't gradually introduce them to the realities of life. Skinned knees happen. It's a dangerous world out there - doing things that prevent them from getting hurt makes them unable to cope.
On top of all this, the National Standards for Youth Sports state that leagues should not engage in choosing post-season All-Star teams. The standards were put together by some of the nation’s top recreation professionals and are the true voice of reason when it comes to youth sports.
Where do I find this? I came across
this, which makes no mention of post-season All-Star teams in the coaches' code of ethics. Ironically enough, there is a nomination form for
Coach of the Year. Basically, the children, who we want to develop and grow with these sports, can't have their achievements recognized, but the adults, who, in theory, have grown up and know how to handle competition, get rewarded.
The solution is clear and simple--ban All-Star games. Singling out players for these teams smothers the purpose of recreational youth sports leagues, where the emphasis should be on participation and learning.
Yes, many parents nationwide will no doubt cringe at this stance because All-Star games are a great source of pride when a child earns that distinction, but the kids could care less. What 5 year old, who can’t even tie his shoes yet, gains any extra satisfaction from being chosen for these teams?
Not really. If the goal is to emphasize participation and learning, then it would be most logical to promote the all-star games. Use it as an opportunity for the kids to get excited about the competition - to be one of the lucky few. If a kid will feel left out for not making the team, then encourage them to practice and try again. Preventing kids from even tripping doesn't allow them the opportunity to pick themselves up and dust themselves off and try again.
If a child isn't gaining satisfaction from being chosen for the team - if it's that unimportant to him/her - he/she likely won't be selected. A child who wants to be on the team will work hard for it - if a child doesn't care, just as workers in business, their performance will be mediocre and not merit being selected.
I’ll bet your recreation department is involved in All-Star games in some way. If you don’t step forward to push for change, who will?
Someone who thinks that the solution to dealing with their child being upset isn't to make their child a stronger person by teaching them to cope. Someone who doesn't know how to tell their children no, who doesn't know how to teach their children that disappointments are a part of life and that one must take the good with the bad. Someone who is in dire need of a reality check.
If you’re feeling reluctant to do something, consider all the children who feel hurt, left out and embarrassed by being passed over every season.
All the children who feel hurt, left out, and embarrassed by being passed over every season can have their parents keep track of and independently audit the baseball statistics. The statistics can be multifunctional - it can show if the coach is covertly employing favoritism in selecting the all-star team, or, as mentioned before, it can highlight areas that require improvement.
Youth sports aren’t meant to single out only a handful of kids; they’re about making every child feel special, including those who won’t make the All-Star team.
If a child doesn't feel special regardless of whether or not they make the All-Star team, then there is a more grave underlying issue - namely, the coach is bad. If the coach can't or won't help a child overcome his/her weaknesses and play to his/her strengths, then the coach isn't doing his/her job.
Incidentally, this is a screen-capture of results from the poll on the NewsNet5 website:

Apparently I'm not the only one who thinks this is a bad idea.